Last nite I dreamt that all my kids were with me — even my daughter, the youngest, who has been completely alienated from me and one of her brothers by her dad. In this dream, I was providing something for them to eat before I had to go to community college (which I’ve been out of for decades..). I was also sharing my love for them and my desire for them to love each other and enjoy their time together. There was some uncertainty in the air, but more than that was hope in my heart!
This mom ran out of legal fund$ (which the legal system was completely ineffective in this extreme Parental Alienation case) and became concerned about her daughter being used to lie in court to gain her dad’s approval/rewards. Family Court proved to be futile with a judge who did not look at evidence and an unfit GAL even if this mom had not been concerned about how the system would create further damage and trauma. This mom signed a custody agreement, but father to child did not adhere to anything. The father, who obtained physical custody with the assistance of his latest wife, did not continue daughter’s counseling as ordered by court. This ended without discussion, even though mother’s insurance and copay was paying for the vast majority of it. Daughter had been severely depressed and liked the counselor she had begun seeing. In addition, daughter expressed desire to frequently visit mother, but as soon as custody agreement was signed, which provided father child support money from mother, communication abruptly and significantly decreased, then stopped. No visitation was possible without communication. Father said daughter did not want to see mother. However, father had lied to courts, lied to mother, lied about mother, and has a history of triangulation.
Here is part 2 with names covered to protect innocent and guilty.
Here is an image of actual custody orders. Who they concern is not important (except to the target parent, who chooses to remain anonymous).
What’s important to understand is the reality of Family Court: it does not protect the child’s best interest when even reasonable court orders are not enforced. Family Court should never put a child in the middle. Custody decisions should be based on common sense, factual evidence, unbiased expert testimony, and have nothing to do with who has the most money for legal fees or who has business connections with professional decision makers and influencers. What is also important, as in every situation every where, is to keep in mind that there’s more than one side to the story. Like an oppressive ruler of a country, an alienating parent takes careful control of the information.
This is an example of sharing what has previously been censored by the lies of an alienating parent, living in fear of the truth. Who that parent is, is not the point. This is the situation and story of many parents:
“X has violated/kept me out of any discussion w/ doctors and all [health-care] decision-making have been made by him alone.”