Spreading the word – sharing information

Torn 2 Peaces:

Keep sharing information about Parental Alienation/Domestic Violence by Proxy/Psychological Abuse/Coercive Control…

Originally posted on Karen Woodall:

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One of the things that we do at the Family Separation Clinic is publish papers and documents which you can use to inform people about Parental Alienation and its impact on you, your children and their wider family. The above is one of the documents that you can download from the site.

In our work with families, we educate as we go along, training CAFCASS, the Judiciary, Schools and Nurseries and GP’s about the impact of alienation and how it can be helped.

We always encourage all parents and wider family to share in the information spreading as much as possible, so that the ripple effect of sharing information and experience, creates positive change for other people who are affected or who may be affected in the future.

Please visit us at the Family Separation Clinic or email us at office@familyseparationclinic.co.uk for a list of documents that you can use…

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Old Movie Still Way Ahead of Professionals’ Understanding

“Gaslight” (the 1944 version) is one of the best suspense classics I can think of that’s not directed by Hitchcock, says a reviewer on Amazon.

Perhaps the professionals involved in the Family Court system need to watch the 1944 movie “Gaslight” so that children’s lives are not put in peril and their childhood is not completely destroyed by Family Court rulings. The movie explains what is hard to put into words: severe and debilitating abuse does not have to be physical. And as the movie also shows, no yelling is even required to control someone.

In Parental Alienation, or Domestic Violence by Proxy, physical violence and yelling are often completely absent, yet experts who understand Parental Alienation have called it “the worst form of child abuse.”

Maternal Deprivation is a way to continue to abuse mothers who have left an abusive partner. The courts help the abusive partner thanks to techniques used by the abuser. The same techniques used in the movie “Gaslight.”

Although no children  played a part in the movie, any reasonable adult should still be able to imagine the horror of a mom whose child is being put into the hands of a delusional and abusive person, and not judge her for being upset and protesting a horrible fate for her child. The abuser in “Gaslight” was sophisticated — too sophisticated for yelling and hitting, yet his manipulations were every bit as frightening. The film “Gaslight” is included in the thriller genre. What happens in Family Court when a child is being taken away from a mother and put into the abuser’s complete control is beyond frightening.

The movie “Gaslight” even had a verb created after it:

gaslight “To manipulate events and situations in order to make a person believe that he or she is crazy. From the 1944 movie with Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman.” — Urban Dictionary

“Gaslighting” is also a term from the movie.

Sociopaths rule the courtroom, wrote H.G. Beverly, author of The Other Side of Charm: Your Memoir.

Family Court professionals must be responsible enough not to allow themselves to be “gaslighted” by abusers. They need to be accountable for adhering to real evidence. The need to stop trafficking children to the one sophisticated enough to have the funds and to lie without blinking — this does not mean they are the better parent, but the covert and unhealthy one. Meanwhile, the distraught parent is made to look as unstable as Charles Boyer made Ingrid Bergman appear in “Gaslight.”

It took a detective who cared to save Ingrid Bergman from a horrible end. A detective who looked at hard evidence, not outside appearances intended to manipulate. What is it going to take to save our children, our families, from the domestic terrorism a sociopath creates with the help of the legal system?

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Father’s Day Reflections – Separation By Divide & Conquer

Originally posted on AMother'sHeartSongsUnsilenced:

Father’s Day is almost here.  And so my thoughts fly to Dad, along with the happy memories we shared:  baking him chocolate cakes in my Easy Bake oven while anxiously waiting for him to exclaim how “delicious” they were, riding high on his shoulders at summer carnivals, stopping for banana and root beer pop-sicles on the way home from a day’s honest hard work, fishing and camping trips, an entire life-time of memories.  Too many to even begin to share.

So much of who I am, I owe to my Dad.  To this day, when faced with a task I would rather avoid, into my mind’s eye comes that sly grin, laying down his favorite gauntlet:  “You’re not afraid of a little hard work, are ya?  But of course not!  What other choice do I have but to dig right in? :)  A certain strong will, a…

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Want To Be A Good Dad? Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups | National Organization for Men Against Sexism

Want To Be A Good Dad? Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups | National Organization for Men Against Sexism.

Counselor Collusion? Unethical Therapist? What victims can try:

I couldn’t believe it. I believed the counselor involved in my custody evaluation case must surely always be there with the intention to help most kids — that her unethical and unprofessional behavior in my case was a lapse in judgment. But I’ve since learned my family was not the only victim. Where my case took place, other moms and I have seen evidence of three counselors not only recommend the child go with the father IN EVERY CASE, no matter the evidence of abuse, but that at least two of them work together AND WORK TO HIDE AND FALSIFY EVIDENCE. We are not just seeing incompetence, but purposeful collusion. We have found this out by sharing our painful experiences with each other and seeing the strong similarities in unprofessional behavior and these professionals’ claims that are counter to the evidence and logic. We have also found this out by looking into court records and seeing a PATTERN and a CONNECTION with a trio of counselors — one, Angel Gieske, has been arrested, thanks to a fierce mom (who is blessed with a large family support system) taking the court transcript to an investigative reporter working for a local news channel. One — Lynn McLean — lost her license, thanks to a mom reporting her, but is still practicing under a different official title. I think counselors serve a very important function, but their job is not to lie so they can snatch kids from their moms or work to turn kids against their moms and sometimes even place these kids in psychologically and physically unsafe homes with abusive dads. The third counselor, RS, is a PhD still in charge of a counseling group that evaluates custody decisions.

Collusion is an agreement between two or more parties, sometimes illegal and therefore secretive, to limit open competition by deceiving, misleading, or defrauding others of their legal rights, or to obtain an objective forbidden by law typically by defrauding.

I asked an alienated father who lives in another state what to do.This is his recommendation:

  1. File complaint with State LICENSING board. These professionals need to have a license to practice and the state agency. This is beyond the psychiatry board, which only covers psychiatric board certs. Although the APA (American Psychological Association) has a complaint process for psychologists.
  2. Find the state statute(s) that cover perjury, collusion and any other criminal activity conducted by the professional for the particular jurisdiction and file a criminal police report with the state police Troop in which the professional practices. Follow up with the State’s Attorney to make sure they receive the criminal report and make and make them provide a response as to whether they intend on pursuing an investigation. PLEASE LET ME KNOW OF ALABAMA STATUTES, IF YOU HAVE THIS INFORMATION OR CAN DIRRECT ME TO IT.
  3. Write to your legislature, specifically the committee responsible for the courts and which may have written the legislation allowing the judicial branch to order evaluations in family matters. I tried to get legislation passed this past year to establish a Task Force to study the application of industry standards for evaluations but I was not successful. I will try again next year, but let them know that better oversight legislation is required for these professionals.
  4. Lawsuits are difficult unless the person did something truly egregious like had an inappropriate relationship with the patient. Even if you have an expert witness who can vouch for the industry standard of care required and that the professional somehow violated it, the industry the industry standard of care of mental health professionals is wishy washy so few lawyers will take on this type of case.

Misuse of these so called mental health professionals is rampant and a better way must be found to exercise some oversight over their conduct.

Dr.RS lied and said I never contacted her for an interview. She hid evidence of my ex’s lies and abuse and his greedy and cruel intentions and more from her team that was making the custody evaluation. Instead of looking for the truth and sharing it, she tried to bully me into “taking responsibility” for something I did not do, then charge me for future sessions based on lies, not addressing the help my daughter deserved. She not only refused to speak to my daughter’s grandmothers after saying she would (counselors are supposed to speak to all family members in relationship with the child to know who/what the child deals with or is influenced by as well as get to the truth and the whole story), but refused to speak to my son as well. She also denied the GLARING signs of coercive control and enmeshment and even worked to support my ex by allowing him to be the only one to be around my daughter — he was always the one to take her to sessions I was never informed of, and he his 5th wife were either in the room with my daughter or right outside the door and waiting to take her into their home. My attorney, who had used RS to help her previous client, a dad get custody, apparently did not know that RS always works in favor of the father. My attorney told me she secretly took the questions that this team of counselors uses, but I refused to take part of the dishonesty. Hindsight tells me that RS may have purposely made these questionnaires used by her and her team available to my attorney when my attorney was representing a custody seeking father. How else could my attorney just have taken this counseling center’s long lists of questions?  (Although RS completely ignored my answers in her report). There’s much more I could share, but it’s too much to put here.

Hindsight tells us victims we should’ve recorded our interactions with such counselors, but most of us expect someone in a helping profession to care about the victims of abuse. I think counselors serve a very important function, but their job is not to lie so they can snatch kids from their moms or work to turn kids against their moms and sometimes even place these kids in psychologically and physically unsafe homes with abusive dads. Some counselors in the area are already quietly warning moms about these individuals — but the information comes too late.

Combined with a corrupt family court system that involves questionable counselors, it can take much energy to live day to day after tossing and turning many many nights in disbelief and pain over the maternal deprivation nightmare. Some moms are actually threatened not to speak out, some moms are worried about retaliation from the system, but many suffer post traumatic stress symptoms whenever we think about testifying about a  counselor’s wrongful behavior and role in parental alienation.

But once we can speak up, we can better release the pain of the injustice and be at peace knowing we helped an innocent, vulnerable family. It is not in our power to make the final decision, but we may be called to play an important part.

Alienated Mum And Her Family

Torn 2 Peaces:

This sounds so much like my story =( Daughters need to read this. Please share this important testimony.

Originally posted on PARENTS HEALING FROM ESTRANGEMENT- #PAS:

An Alienated Mom And Her Family

I will begin by telling you I am alienated grandmother. The story begins with my daughter who was in a physically and mentally abusive marriage for 10 years. All took place in front of her children, 2 girls. One of the abuses was when her ex through her down and spit in face in front of the girls and once he locked her in an office room in their house. These are just the tip of the iceberg. When she finally got the courage to leave the marriage, is when the insidious act of alienation began. In the beginning, both parents struggled with the issue of saying things about the other parent. My daughter tried many times to talk to her ex about what was going on but he constantly refused to speak with her and laughed in her face. She requested family therapy…

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Children’s lives are being destroyed!

Torn 2 Peaces:

An alienated father shared the following helpful, practical information to this alienated mom regarding a family court corruption situation (collusion with counselors on behalf of abusive dads as seen in a pattern of cases and in hiding evidence and producing interviews that should have but never took place, etc.) in my area that has not only affected me, but other moms: . “1. File complaint with State LICENSING board. These professionals need to have a license to practice and the state agency. This is beyond the psychiatry board that David suggested which only covers psychiatric board certs. Although the APA (American Psychological Association) has a complaint process for psychologists.

2. Lawsuits are difficult unless the person did something truly egregious like had an inappropriate relationship with the patient. I’ve talked to a number of persons who tried this route, Even if you have an expert witness who can vouch for the industry standard of care required and that the professional somehow violated it, the industry standard of care of mental health professionals is wishy washy so few lawyers will take on this type of case.

3. Find the state statute(s) that cover perjury, collusion and any other criminal activity conducted by the professional for the particular jurisdiction and file a criminal police report with the state police Troop in which the professional practices. Follow up with the State’s Attorney to make sure they receive the criminal report and make them provide a response as to whether they intend on pursuing an investigation.

4. Write to your legislature, specifically the committee responsible for the courts and which may have written the legislation allowing the judicial branch to order evaluations in family matters. I tried to get legislation passed this past year to establish a Task Force to study the application of industry standards for evaluations but I was not successful. I will try again next year, But let them know that better oversight legislation is required for these professionals.

Good luck. Misuse of these so called mental health professionals is rampant and a better way must be found to exercise some oversight over their conduct.”

Originally posted on PARENTS HEALING FROM ESTRANGEMENT- #PAS:

Extreme controversy is the issue where evidence on both sides can make a compelling case………………BUT when the “facts” making the compelling case are fabricated, incomplete facts become evidence, the people presenting the facts are narcissistic, exude great manipulation and have the money that talks – the victims and the suffers are the children caught in the cross fire and subsequently, the loving, left behind parent.
The Family Justice system is buckling under the pressure and sheer volume of divorce and custody case that exist. Don’t get me wrong, I do blame the Judges for making dire and poor decisions, but one thing can be said – they are way too busy to deal with the proverbial bullshit that reveals itself in their court room and too many Judges are ill equipped to recognize the variety of personality disorders that are present in the court rooms.
Sure – it is never black and white, but when people have…

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