The other night I dreamt my ex had talked my 18 year old into moving with him to a remote area of the country to go to college. I was upset because, in my dream, I believed she would be under his spell, as kids of all ages do when a parent is a master con artist, and the rest of her family, me, especially, would once again be cut off from her psychologically, emotionally, etc., and never hear from her again.
I dreamed he had decided to do this because he learned I was trying to move — not back where ex lives, but closer to my child. She is now just a few minutes from him, but many many miles from me. It’s complicated, but this would not be good for my formerly alienated child or me (you may have to go way back into this blog to understand — some of us know that their mere proximity to our child induces and instigates sick games and the intense and constant involvement of our child into the abuse alienating parent’s manipulations and orchestrations designed to destroy a sacred bond. I know of many other moms this is happening to and I am sure anyone with an obsessively hateful ex might know what I’m talking about where others have advice for something they know nothing about….).
I am hoping hoping hoping she will actually follow through and visit me soon. I got to see her for the first time in a couple of years once she escaped from under the roof (literally) of her mental captor.
It has been tough, good, confusing, exhausting and …. scary.
But I can’t be scared. Neither to I have to put on false bravado.
I must focus on love and peace.
Yes, it is healthy to express anger — one must tell the truth about the injustice of maternal deprivation & parental alienation.
I will be ending this blog soon, but I still share news stories on various media outlet about this issue. I will bear witness to this horror so other can be validated, open, and find relief and reconciliation.
I’ve had to reconcile with myself. I’ve had to make peace with my ignorance about Parental Alienation. I’ve had to make peace with the system I trusted that allowed my daughter, me, and my family to suffer trauma and threats. I’m making peace in my heart toward the friends and community members who judged me and did not reach out to help my daughter and me. It’s happening — the peace I thought could never come. The hope that allowed me back into my daughter’s life. The education on Parental Alienation that guided me a little too late, but better than never. The system never helped me. The system made things worse. The stories helped.
The brave witnesses who stepped up and spoke out and documented the truth of this abuse helped.
Please tell your story in as much detail as possible. Share your love and pain and truth. Share other’s stories. Our voices are important. Our voices will help free the voices of the kids and other parents suffering. That has been the purpose and mission of this blog. I would have liked to have had more voices validating this reality. Others need to know maternal deprivation with parental alienation is a tactic, not necessarily evidence of a bad parent. I appreciate all the fathers who supported this truth. My heart goes out to all parents who are in this hell.
Thank you for your support. This has been a heavy burden that has affected my health. Now it’s time to focus on extreme wellness, love, peace and reunification.