Teachers, college professors, pastors, ministers, doctors, counselors, coaches and many others can begin to help youth in an area that is desperately needed.

Parents who are on a mission to destroy a bond between a child and the other parent …  tell others they are “protecting” their child and make the child feel like the other parent is unworthy of a relationship with their child. Something no child should have to hear, for that parent is part of who they are.

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Parents who are on the receiving end of the alienation are often helpless. There is little they can do by themselves. They stand helpless, as they watch the relational death between themselves and their children. They watch their children construct a wall between them as a result of the brainwashing. The parents witness the joy being drained out of their children’s lives, as they are asked to spy, lie, and even partake in the intense denigration. They watch their children sabotage their time with them in order to remain abnormally loyal to the alienating parent (and family).

Alienated parents cannot help their own children

because they are portrayed as the enemy.

The courts fail them, too.

Family courts embrace adversarial situations and often empower the alienating parent. Alienating parents have passed the course in manipulation and are very convincing. As a result, the courts lack of education, empathy, knowledge of children development or need for power further hurts the child.

One gal who visited the fair shared with me that she worked at a woman’s prison. Her job was to help ensure that female prisoners remain connected to their children. How contrary is that to the family law system who continually promotes children to be ripped from the lives of loving parents who have committed no crime?

Those who truly care about the emotional development of children need to help us empower our children with good information that could help protect them from alienating behavior. Parental Alienation Education programs could begin to heal relationships and help prevent children from being emotional abusers themselves.

Presenting age appropriate information about parental alienation to all age groups, including college students, could empower peers to help peers. Children talk to each other and often want to help, but if they are unaware of the mind games that often take place in divorce and custody cases, they may be doing more harm than good by condoning unhealthy behavior and attitudes.

The damage caused by the breakup of families is not going away, especially if we continually turn our backs on the abuse. Research shows that 20-25% of children in divorce situations are alienated from a parent. The impact lasts a life time. That was evident as I spoke to adults, in Albion, PA, who were alienated from their children.

Teachers, college professors, pastors, ministers, doctors, counselors, coaches and many others can begin to help children in an area that is desperately needed. Right relationships are what life is all about! Parental alienation is real, parental alienation is child abuse! — Cindy Corsi

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Caught Between Parents/ Supporting children through the challenges of divorce-by Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D

Originally posted on Protective Mothers' Alliance International:

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Mindfulness as a Tool

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/caught-between-parents/201212/mindfulness-tool

Disclaimer:
As PMA International has posted before, we prefer the term DV by Proxy to explain the manipulations an abuser parent uses to teach the child to reject the protective parent. We prefer this term because;

1. It more accurately depicts the actions taken by the abuser parent towards the child
2. There has been a lot of misinformation about parental alienation circulating the internet and beyond.
3. The term parental alienation and /or parental alienation syndrome has been use as a legal defense for abusive dads in family court. Most often this term has been used by the attorneys of dads who sexual abuse their children. This defense is used – most often- by attorneys in family court for the purpose of deflecting blame from the criminal actions of their client onto the protective mother.
4 The result of the above has frequently been…

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Assessment of Parental Capacity

Torn 2 Peaces:

Everything. EVERYTHING Dr. Rosemary Snodgrass did in my situation goes against what experts have to say about parenting and signs of Parental Alienation.

Originally posted on Dr Craig Childress: Attachment-Based "Parental Alienation":

The central parenting quality that differentiates healthy from unhealthy parenting practices is the capacity for parental empathy.

Structured and firm parenting that is enacted with parental empathy for the child will be sensitive to both the child’s developmental need for structure and parental guidance, and for the child’s emerging individuation and self-expression (consistent with the child’s developmental period, i.e., infancy, early childhood, middle childhood, early adolescence, later adolescence).

Similarly, a parenting style that is more flexible and permissive which is enacted with parental empathy for the child will balance both the child’s need for autonomy and self-expression with the child’s developmental needs for limits and parental direction (consistent with the child’s developmental period).

The central parenting issue is not whether parents are structured and firm or flexible and permissive. The central defining feature of healthy parenting is the capacity for parental empathy.

Since the absence of parental empathy

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PTSD Mothers Entrenched in Custody Battles

Torn 2 Peaces:

Imagine having an abusive person threaten to take your child away from you, and therefore, take your child away from the mother he/she needs — what would you do? You’d try to protect your child via the court system, expecting them to care about facts and evidence, and most of all, a child’s right to be in a healthy, peaceful situation and not exploited as a weapon of abuse. You’d expect the court, the system, to care about truth, but not only will they refuse to help you protect your child and yourself, you are punished for doing so — for not going along with the abuser’s manipulation of the system to cause you financial and emotional stress, to psychologically control you, to take over your life and schedule and to humiliate you.

Originally posted on Coalition Against Legal Abuse in New York:

The perversion of American family values just took on a new twist. The federal government is aware of the crisis in Family Courts across America. Thousands of mothers are losing custody of their children, to their abusers. Hundreds of thousands of people have written to their senators asking for senate oversight hearing on the failure of family court to protect children. Instead of the federal government protecting our family values with our tax dollars, we are now spawning a new generation of PTSD sufferers due to legal Abuse Syndrome, injuries sustained from chronic siege of a custody battle.

LEGAL ABUSE SYNDROME (LAS) is a form of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).  It is a psychic injury, not a mental illness.  It is a personal injury that develops in individuals assaulted by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud. Abuse of power and authority and a profound lack of accountability in our courts…

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Reunification after Parental Alienation

I have tried to imagine a scene where my now almost 18 year old daughter & I see each other, whether by accident, or whatever. Many times I have replayed it in my mind, working to prepare for a possible miracle.

Until last night, I could only see myself crying, crying, crying, & her cold toward me — not because she and I are cold, indifferent people (though since her dad became obsessed with destroying the mother-child relationship, she has expressed violence toward me; however, I know how caring my daughter was toward her whole family prior to our Parental Alienation nightmare), but because of the depth of pain we have been forced to associate with each other. A pain one could only want to forget because to the abused, it seems humanly impossible to overcome.

Experts on Parental Alienation, or Parentectomies, say it is rare to reunify after extreme Parental Alienation.  After all, indoctrination affects many of the most intelligent people for a lifetime.

I can’t help but think this would be different if kids were educated about this form of abuse. Dr. Amy J. Baker says that telling an alienated kid they have been brainwashed does not work BECAUSE the victim of brainwashing is too brainwashed to believe it– otherwise, he or she would not be alienated in the first place if he or she was not brainwashed. This makes sense: I can remember others telling me my husband was not treating me right — that he was this & that, but I denied it verbally and mentally — I did not accept this truth.

Not right away,

but little by little,

with the information,

the education,

the name for what I was experiencing,

no matter how hard I worked to pretend I had a different reality,

gave me freedom.

The truth I was so afraid of, set me free.

It was a painful relief, but it led to healing, in a way the denial never could have.

Thank goodness others were courageous and caring enough to tell me what I did not want to hear!

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But back to my daughter:

Last nite I had a dream.

I dreamt my daughter somehow had learned about Parental Alienation & had come to realize that was what she had experienced. She came to me (in my dream) wanting to reunite. She smiled at me! She said it would be a long journey. I nodded in agreement — it was wonderful she would be committed to our mother and child reunion!

They say freedom starts with education.  They say impossible things are accomplished because of dreams.

The huge increase in childhood prescriptive psychiatric medications is epidemic

Torn 2 Peaces:

coraline effects of paMany kids who are victims of Parental Alienation are not helped, but drugged, by psychiatrists — this not only masks the problem, but could possibly make the child/teen feel as if there’s something physically or mentally deficient about him or her when instead there is something very wrong & EXTREMELY UNNATURAL about being cut off from and taught to dismiss your own mother (or father).

Originally posted on ChironLightMuse:

These are facts, and perhaps even higher than stated here due to under reporting .

The gathering of reported , via citizens , and those who know this epidemic

is not justified , and it must be eradicated when for profit of control .

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Forgiving those involved in Parental Alienation (Abuse)

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I’m working on trying to forgive those involved in Parental Alienation — the alienating ex, his wife, family members, certain “professionals” in the system, even my daughter’s piano teacher…

I’m working on forgiving those who judged instead of helped.

But it’s one thing to forgive those who have taken part and ARE TAKING PART in causing me trauma, and it’s another thing to forgive those who have harmed my child’s emotional well-being — even to the point of leading to her becoming self-destructive & risking her life (even after going on meds!).

I am working to recognize that everyone hurts an innocent person to some extent, and all of us need forgiveness at some time.  I know this.  I know I’ve failed others, hurt others even if not methodically and intentionally.  “They know not what they do” I remind myself.  I don’t expect anyone to change, but I can do my part.  I can do it for me. I can do it for my daughter, my family, especially.  I can be grateful for the good — I can recognize the good in myself and even the good that exists in those who have harmed — even if their humanity is buried deep down….

I’m not there, yet.  But peace and acceptance is coming.  This is because I’ve worked through the grief by sharing much of my story and expressing my anger.

Thank you, Archbishop Desmond Tutu

 

 

“If you know Sara or Angela Asleson please be part of the solution…”

“Please share and help this video go viral. I have not seen my 2 girls for 4 years due to parental alienation. If you know Sara or Angela Asleson please be part of the solution to re-unify! Thank you!

 

Please share her video:

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Mother shaming: the dynamics of the alienating father

Carter 4 prezMother shaming: the dynamics of the alienating father. Alienated mothers face not only more cruelty from society, but those who have not remarried face more financial constraints that get in the way of justice. How can society allow moms, & therefore their children who need them, be so vulnerable?

Starting Over When You Can’t Go Back? – To All Protective Parents

Torn 2 Peaces:

art Hands 10 x 8 x  2 oil on cradled panel SMPraying for this mom. Those of us who have experienced the trauma of #ParentalAlienation & the “justice” system that abuses victims even further need prayers for peace & healing & reconciliation.

Originally posted on amississippimom:

Starting Over When You Can’t Go Back?  – To All Protective Parents:  Rebuilding when you can’t go home again:
To all of my friends:  I have slowly begun to rebuild my work and my career, my freelance paralegal research.  I had been self-employed in the same field for over 20 years when my life came to a screeching halt in 2010 when my young children (ages 9 and 12) were kidnapped by their father and taken over 200 miles away … this was parental kidnapping, against custody, against the law.  So many others are familiar with this horror but this type of kidnapping garners little sympathy and certainly less action.  This atrocity, and the long-haul of horror it places a protective parent in is in no way different than having your children kidnapped by a stranger.  Although with parental abductions there may some knowledge, confirmation, and awareness, however vague, that…

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