False Memory Syndrome in Parental Alienation Syndrome

Originally posted on leslinetmd:

Jeapordy in the Courtroom

False Memory Syndrome sometimes occurs in Parental Alienation Syndrome. Difficult for many to comprehend, false memory syndrome has been documented in an award-winning book Jeopardy in the Courtroom, published by the American Psychological Association and written by Dr. Stephen Ceci and Dr. Maggie Bruck.  Jeopardy in the Courtroom describes studies that reveal how repeated questioning and interviewing of children can lead to false memories and false allegations.

In one study children were asked repeatedly to think about whether events (that had actually never happened to them) had happened – for example, getting their finger caught in a mousetrap and going to the hospital to remove the trap. After ten sessions of repeated questioning, more than half the children told false stories about such events. In fact, their stories were so embellished with details that experts could not distinguish real events from those that were not. Even after researchers told…

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Supermodel Beverly Johnson Claims Bill Cosby Drugged Her

Torn 2 Peaces:

It makes a difference for other victims when victims are brave enough to come forward — who wants to speak about a traumatic event only to be ignored or abused with judgment?

Originally posted on TIME:

Supermodel Beverly Johnson added her name Thursday to a growing list of women who have accused comedian and actor Bill Cosby of either drugging or sexually assaulting them in the past.

Writing for Vanity Fair, Johnson details how she met with Cosby several times in the 1980s to discuss and prepare for a possible role on The Cosby Show. During one visit at his home, she alleges, Cosby insisted she have a cappuccino from the espresso machine in his personal bar. Johnson says that because of her experimentation with drugs in the 70s, she “knew by the second sip of the drink Cosby had given me that [she’d] been drugged.” When she shouted at him and tried to fight him off, she claims, Cosby put her in a cab.

She later tried to call Cosby and confront him, but gave up after reaching his wife: “I didn’t call…

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“Mad Elephant” or Dumbo’s Protective Mother?

In Disney’s “Dumbo,” his mom tries to protect him from harm.  A man walks in, assesses the situation, and locks her up in a cage with a sign that says “Mad Elephant/Keep Out.”

This movie was made in the 1940s. “Mad” was a popular term for “crazy.”

We moms who have instinctively responded to the sick insanity thrust upon our child(ren) by an alienating father face a similar fate today.

We are judged by someone who walks in on the situation much too late, we are shut up, shut down, and cut off from protecting and loving our child.

In real life, in today’s world, when another adult, especially another parent, or a psychologist, or a family court ruling, judges a mom as crazy or less than worthy, our child(ren) often does/do as well.

THAT is what is truly crazy.  What should be stopped is Parental Alienation aka Domestic Violence by Proxy, not a mother’s instinct to protect her child from being cut off from her love or anything else her child truly needs.  dumbotrauma3

Businessman Threatens to Arrest Mother of One of his Children — Will Educating the Public Bring Justice or Judgment for Future Victims of Domestic Abuse by Proxy?

(His own mother was told by his dad she could not come home to him and his three other siblings. He has learned how to achieve domestic abuse with lies and intimidation and manipulation. Parental Alienation Abuse gets passed down. This is his latest email and second threat of arrest.)

Once again, there is no requirement for me to provide you with original receipts.  You’re just playing games.
I had the medical receipts available for your and the court’s review at the child support enforcement hearing from which you failed to appear (twice).  Surprise, surprise!!!!   I provided the court and DHR with copies of the receipts.
If it is so important for you to verify the authenticity of [Child’s Name] uncovered medical expenses I will be happy to sit down, in the presence of the enforcement officials, and go over bills with you.  Just let me know the next time you are in town and we can set up a meeting (as soon as someone bails you out of the Lauderdale County Detention Center).
Fortunately, the amount of money you owe is rather nominal and your failure to pay does not affect my life as much as it apparently affects yours in having to pay it.  It is actually in my best interest to just let it be collected by the courts and added to your balance for which you are being charged 12% interest on the outstanding balance. That’s a pretty good return.  Not only that, DHR has the resources to garnish your pay, flag you banking accounts and take any income tax returns you might be due.  In the end, I’ll eventually get it.
So, why don’t you just continue on being a Deadbeat…..just remember, as long as you owe me money, you’ve got no leverage.
Another reminder,  [Child’s Name] plans to start college in about 8 months.  You’re on the hook for 1/2 that expense, too.  Better start saving up.  I’m anticipating your part to be about $8,000 – $10,000 per year.  This includes tuition, room and board, fees and books.  It’s all right there in the court order.  Hopefully we won’t have to chase you around for that, too.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

What he does not mention is that mother is paying child support and covering child with health insurance.  What he does not mention is daughter has been in hospital numerous times since she’s been in his household with he and his 5th wife.  alienating parents tacticsWhat he does not mention is the court has ordered him to inform the mother (who shares custody) and involve her in healthcare decisions.  DHR just informed the mother THERE IS NO WARRANT FOR HER ARREST — THIS EMAIL IS FULL OF THREATS AND DOES NOT CORRESPOND TO THEIR POLICIES AND PROCEDURES.

But this only illustrates one of his violated orders and laws.  This only illustrates a small fraction of the abuses he has committed and gotten away with.  Businessmen can, and so some will.

domestic terrorismPlease pray for me and my daughter and our family.  And pray for her father.  fred helpers

It all becomes crystal clear…the “pot of gold” at the end of the rainbow

Originally posted on AMother'sHeartSongsUnsilenced:

Now that my father’s Trust has been released to his children upon his death, it is made abundantly clear, what I have known all along – that my ex-husband’s rabid pursuit of custody (repeated legal filings and legal abuse), was to obtain this “pot of gold” at the end of the rainbow, my inheritance.

How sad that my ex exploited the fact that my father had Parkinson’s disease.  How sad that my ex had to so misuse our child to achieve this wealth.

My prayer is that my son will know his intrinsic value and worth as the wonderful human being that he is. That he will know that he is far too precious to feel debased or devalued from being so basely used by a group of greedy people.

The time-line of it all is perfectly clear, and very well documented through DCFS, court ordered forensic psychologist, doctor, and…

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Imagine: a child you know loses a parent through illness, accident or military conflict. What would you expect to see?

Torn 2 Peaces:

Please share. And thank you for all who serve.

Originally posted on expoƒunction:

[This is the second post in a series. Consider starting with the first.]

Imagine: a child you know loses a parent through illness, accident or military conflict. What would you expect to see? You might expect to see an overwhelming sense of loss, of grief. You might expect family and friends and others to rally round with emotional, practical and other forms of support. You might expect the grieving process to go on for some time. You might expect to see a grief-stricken parent struggling at times to muster the energy to be strong for that child, yet always instinctively driven to put the child’s needs first.

You might in time, expect to see signs of a return to some new form of normality. You might dare to expect; to believe, that this child will grow into a well adjusted, contented and responsible adult and parent.

You’d not I…

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Heal Others, Heal Yourself (Parental Alienation Hurts)

True stories are used in fiction plots or song lyrics. Fictional books become movies. Beginning as teens, we are influenced and moved by words, art and characters we relate to.

Young adult authors want to empower their young readers. Young adult authors tap into issues youth have to struggle with.  Rejection, betrayal and even incest, for example.  Literature teachers and librarians know how important this is to teen development.

We also know how powerful stories are.  The fiction novel “Uncle Tom’s Cabin” was credited by Abe Lincoln for starting the Civil War.

Stories bring change.  Sharing stories heals.  Sharing your Parental Alienation abuse story anonymously or openly with a young adult fiction writer can provide him or her with a new, unexplored issue in young adult fiction.  English teacher create lesson plans around young adult fiction.

Share your blog or someone else’s blog and story with young adult writers.  Or just share some professional literature about #ParentalAlienation and teens here on this blog.  tell-your-story

Here are two links that can enable you to contact individual authors:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_young_adult_writers

http://www.massillonlibrary.org/node/449

 

 

 

 

Teachers, college professors, pastors, ministers, doctors, counselors, coaches and many others can begin to help youth in an area that is desperately needed.

Parents who are on a mission to destroy a bond between a child and the other parent …  tell others they are “protecting” their child and make the child feel like the other parent is unworthy of a relationship with their child. Something no child should have to hear, for that parent is part of who they are.

for Wendy

Parents who are on the receiving end of the alienation are often helpless. There is little they can do by themselves. They stand helpless, as they watch the relational death between themselves and their children. They watch their children construct a wall between them as a result of the brainwashing. The parents witness the joy being drained out of their children’s lives, as they are asked to spy, lie, and even partake in the intense denigration. They watch their children sabotage their time with them in order to remain abnormally loyal to the alienating parent (and family).

Alienated parents cannot help their own children

because they are portrayed as the enemy.

The courts fail them, too.

Family courts embrace adversarial situations and often empower the alienating parent. Alienating parents have passed the course in manipulation and are very convincing. As a result, the courts lack of education, empathy, knowledge of children development or need for power further hurts the child.

One gal who visited the fair shared with me that she worked at a woman’s prison. Her job was to help ensure that female prisoners remain connected to their children. How contrary is that to the family law system who continually promotes children to be ripped from the lives of loving parents who have committed no crime?

Those who truly care about the emotional development of children need to help us empower our children with good information that could help protect them from alienating behavior. Parental Alienation Education programs could begin to heal relationships and help prevent children from being emotional abusers themselves.

Presenting age appropriate information about parental alienation to all age groups, including college students, could empower peers to help peers. Children talk to each other and often want to help, but if they are unaware of the mind games that often take place in divorce and custody cases, they may be doing more harm than good by condoning unhealthy behavior and attitudes.

The damage caused by the breakup of families is not going away, especially if we continually turn our backs on the abuse. Research shows that 20-25% of children in divorce situations are alienated from a parent. The impact lasts a life time. That was evident as I spoke to adults, in Albion, PA, who were alienated from their children.

Teachers, college professors, pastors, ministers, doctors, counselors, coaches and many others can begin to help children in an area that is desperately needed. Right relationships are what life is all about! Parental alienation is real, parental alienation is child abuse! — Cindy Corsi

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