Ending a relationship that you thought was going to last is crushing. It is devastating that it can cause someone depression. There are several reasons why relationships end, and one of the most common is infidelity. It hurts twice as much because it is a clear deed of betrayal. A person whom you thought was supposed to make you happy is now the person who taught you not to trust anyone.
During a bad breakup, it is essential that a person has a stable support system. Friends should be available each time you need to pour out emotions because dealing with it alone is difficult. Someone has to lift you up whenever your thoughts are pulling you down.
If you feel that your breakup is causing you more than just weeks of sleepless nights and it’s affecting your behavior, maybe you need more than a few nights out with friends. You have the power not to let your past relationship cause you depression. Talk therapy is available for people who choose to seek the help of a professional who is knowledgeable in managing the pain of a bad breakup.
“In this kind of therapy clients get an opportunity to explore and broaden the range of feelings that they are comfortable with. This exploratory process not only helps a person understand subtle and often unnoticed emotions, but also helps them begin to manage strong and often uncomfortable feelings more effectively,” wrote F. Diane Barth, LCSW.
Yes, your friends love you, but they can get tired of your drama in the long run. They can also be subjective in giving you advice, or they may avoid saying things they think can hurt you but are essential in the process of healing and moving on. A professional therapist, on the other hand, knows the psychology of breakups and the importance of truth in moving on.
Why You Should Seek A Talk Therapy When Trying To Mend A Broken Heart:
- It Allows Self-Discovery
Talk therapy helps you know yourself. If you have been with someone for so long, you tend to adopt all his hobbies and interests, and a breakup brings up the question of what or who you are without your partner. Do you still have your identity, or you lose an understanding of what your aspirations and goals are?
Building a life together with your partner is normal. You even have made your dreams and created your goals together, and once your relationship ends, you have the opportunity to realize what you want in life without the influence of your partner.
“Let the therapist guide you,” wrote John M Grohol, PsyD. “A psychotherapist’s main job is to act as a guide in your recovery and healing process. They are not there to necessarily give you all the answers, but help you find your own way to those answers.”
- It Helps You Become Optimistic
During a breakup, you need to remain positive. It is unwise to linger to harmful thoughts such as regrets, self-blame, hatred, hopelessness and such. A therapist knows how to bring out your emotions, deal with your negative thoughts, and get rid of them.
Talk therapy is beneficial in helping you get the drive you need to start all over. It aids you in managing pain, and at the same time, channeling it in a productive way and try to start your life again.
- It Teaches You Forgiveness
The key to letting go and moving on is forgiveness. Rubin Khoddam, PhD, wrote, “The act of forgiving is one of realizing that holding onto the anger and resentment no longer carries the same weight on us. Instead of seeing something as good or bad, we begin to see things with full acceptance, as they are, however that is.”
Though it takes time to heal, talk therapy aids you in getting through the process. It makes you realize the imperfections of life, and that somehow, we should all learn the value of acceptance.
Talk therapy emphasizes the binding capacity of humans to make mistakes and to be capable of learning forgiveness.
Finding someone you get to share your life with can be the primary goal of every person on this planet, and ending a relationship can be overwhelming and destructive to one’s mind. Talk therapy is the best option for positively moving on (without bitterness and hatred). It helps you gain something that not all people with broken hearts do – genuine freedom and peace.