The $aga Continue$ — Where is Our Children’s Village????

My (h)ex somehow manipulated the hospital into billing me for a procedure for my daughter he prevented me from having any decision in, despite the court orders that I, as the parent who shares custody, am supposed to be informed and a co-decision-maker. A bill and doctor’s visit that never should have been needed had he (he, the one who, through games & lies, was “awarded” physical custody of our daughter) ever supervised our daughter like any descent man, any descent, caring father would have been protective… but no, he’s allowed her to run wild since 13 — what my stepdad & a therapist termed “child endangerment”. My stepdad said child protective services should check into it. So did the police. I’ve called & provided CPS with evidence & witnesses more than a few times, but no action.  And here this hospital ER should have reported suspected negligence as my ex did not get to the emergency room until an hour after she had been there (he lives and works just a few minutes away). My daughter’s friend said my ex threw my daughter’s jacket over at her face & said “you’re a mess” instead of hugging her and asking her how she was — as any descent parent would, but I was not even informed till after-the-fact. I received a cold email two days later demanding money. I was horrified to hear what happened to my daughter & that I did not even get to comfort her, speak to her, or have her get top care that I had access to where I live and where my health insurance coverage is (Johns Hopkins — THE BEST for what she needed after neglect of supervision). And she wound up in ER three times since for different issues. AGAIN, I was informed days after the fact with request for money above the health insurance I pay for.  What father does not want his daughter to be comforted by her mother, but only wants money for the specific services and places he chooses even against court orders? He owns real estate businesses. He is 11 years older than me. He has more money than me  — he just doesn’t report the earnings of his businesses, according to his former business partners. He also receives child support from me.

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The hospital has failed to report suspicion of neglect and has failed to bill legally. The sociopath conducts every one’s actions, it seems — no wonder my daughter bows down to him — she sees other adults/institutions do it!! And I can’t get the courts to enforce my ex to do what is right and what my daughter, me, and our family deserves — our constitutional rights. 

It is all I can do to sleep at night or concentrate at work. I WANT MY CHILD SAFE AND HEALTHY. I HOPE HE FOLLOWS THROUGH WITH HIS THREATS TO GET THE DA AFTER ME FOR MONEY SO THE DA WILL FINALLY LOOK INTO THE NEGLECT, ETC., SINCE THE DA HAS DONE NOTHING ABOUT THE UNDERAGE PORN, ETC., FOUND ON MY EX’S COMPUTER — THE EVIDENCE JUST DISAPPEARED WITHOUT THE LEGALLY REQUIRED PAPER TRAIL.  THIS IS A NIGHTMARE. A SICK NIGHTMARE. WHERE IS MY CHILD’S VILLAGE? DOES IT EXIST IN THE U.S.? Would Child Protective Services respond if the DA and the hospital were involved?  A mom doesn’t matter in my daughter’s village & neither does my child, it seems.village

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5 thoughts on “The $aga Continue$ — Where is Our Children’s Village????

  1. Have you heard of the term “triangulation”? Triangulation is when family conflicts spill over onto the child. This could also involve a dysfunctional or abusive parent involves a child in roles that are meant for an adult. It’s when the appropriate boundaries between parent-and-child are confused so that the child becomes directly involved in family conflicts. Some examples: A child may be used as a go-between to communicate between parents. A child may feel that she has to choose sides, and show loyalty to one parent to protect that parent (or for some other self serving reason that parent has brainwashed into the child).

    Some parents engaged in triangulation become so focused on fighting with the other parent, that they take their feelings out onto the child–they scapegoat the child as a way to cope with their own feelings towards the divorce or their ex. They project all of the family’s problems onto the child, and label the child as “wild”, “out of control”, “mentally ill/crazy”, “rebellious”. Or they neglect, abandon or mistreat the child.

    In your case, it could be neglecting the child to ring up medical bills that you have to pay, and using the child as a pawn to retaliate against you (and hurt you).
    This article is a bit scholarly but is really insightful.
    PDF] Ties That Bind: Triangulation, – ResearchGate
    http://www.researchgate.net/…Triangulation…/d912f50c135cc556f1.pdf

    I think this article has some valuable insight… but what we are looking at is a continuation of the abuse, manipulation and mind control we experienced in our abusive relationships. We are seeing our ex partners use and abuse our kids as they did to us. We are seeing our children being hurt and further abused because the court system and child protection fails to protect.

    I think making sense of this does help though get past the mind control, it helps you think clearer…and be able to better advocate for your child. I support you 100% and wish you all the best!

    • Thank you so much. Every single thing I’ve done to advocate for my daughter has been turned against me — I’m the “trouble maker’ if I don’t go along with the game, the façade, the manipulation, the boldface lies… It’s like I’m less than helpless to protect my child. Then, I have to worry about her lying about me or making accusations against me. It’s hard to understand why she would do that when she is abused by her dad (not physically, exactly, but…). I know of one of her friends who hates him, but she is very defensive towards her dad… always has been when her friends, etc,, say anything to her (I tried to always model respect towards him as best I could to her, when I had no idea he would hurt her to the degree he has become willing to.) At this point, with my heath affected and not being effective, I believe much of my life must be dedicated towards health, peace, rebuilding… I can’t hope anymore — only just a bit — I have to find peace & hope that that is what I bring to the world my daughter lives in… I guess that sounds weird, but I’m to that point — I just can’t be filled with pain 24/7 — it’s not fair to my older sons, my mom, my sweetheart — those in my life willing to love me. Does my daughter need to see me get abused by her & her dad? That concerns me, greatly & I’m not strong enough. I’m just not & others can judge me if they wish. I have done plenty of that. I have explored angles to no avail. I must trust that Spirit is working in ways I don’t see…. I hope kids who are alienated (youth & older adult kids of alienation) will see our testimony & be freed from the truth. I am so thankful you & others are speaking out. I hope your kids will find refuge from their abuser ASAP.

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